Goals are a good way to make these things happen. However, goals without processes and planning are merely wants and desires. Without intentional thought about how to achieve them and the behaviors required, they remain abstract. A reminder I often share with myself and clients is that goals and achievements do not define who we are; they are an extension of ourselves

Our stress system was originally designed for survival. It evolved to detect and respond to immediate threats, such as predators, physical danger, and the need for self-preservation. However, in today’s world, stress is no longer just about survival; it’s often tied to ongoing challenges like work, finances, and relationships. Understanding how our stress system works, why it sometimes misfires, and how to manage it effectively is key to navigating modern life.

A significant number of my clients experience some form of anxiety. Personally, as someone who has dealt with anxiety, I know it can sometimes produce positive outcomes. Overthinking, overplanning, and overpreparing have often helped me move toward my goals, ensuring that I’ve considered every angle and that others are relatively pleased (but it is also a double-edged sword; thousands of times it has taken me away from the present moment). However, there have also been many times when anxiety has stopped me from pursuing things that could have added richness to my life.

Perfectionism is often praised as a sign of ambition and dedication, but beneath the surface, it can be emotionally exhausting and counterproductive. While striving for excellence can be beneficial, perfectionism involves setting impossibly high standards, engaging in harsh self-criticism, and constantly seeking approval from others. Over time, this mindset can lead to stress, anxiety, and a persistent feeling of never being "good enough."